My subject position of choice is that of 99% of my friends and family. The idea of Marriage is the topic at hand:
As a gay person, who still waits for the "permission" to get married in my own state, as well as a Non-Christian, the sanctity and significance of marriage to the people I surround myself with boggles me. The way I see it: the benefits from the State should not be in direct correlation to the blessings of a god that not every American Citizen believes in. Of course, one does not have to marry in a church; one could go to the court house, but the fact that so many people are gung-ho for a tradition that pushes so hard for the same American-dream, christian, Nuclear family oriented ideology which we've been holding onto for centuries, illuminates a pattern we put our selves and others into.
On the other hand, my friends see marriage as something natural or absolute- as if it was just another part of life. A Pivotal point in one's life, which allows them to share years of experiences with perhaps a person whom they believe will be with them forever. A persons life would change forever, committing themselves to one person out of the now 7 billion fish in our dry sea. Christianity aside, to say "I want to be with you forever, until death makes that impossible", is a mighty brave statement, and to say that statement with the utmost honesty, whether you love them or you are just willing to be with them, shows an optimistic light in a world so dark. In a world with pain and suffering, with war, torture, hatred, lies and porn, the idea that at least two people can survive even wanting to say the above statement should bring joy to our hearts. Perhaps love is not real, but as long as multiple persons can look into each others eyes and tell them they don't hate them, we have a very small start of something that could change the world.
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